It means that we regard sexual energy as potentially offering a way to open the heart and become joyful, to heal personal and cultural wounds, to experience wholeness, and to know the divine in others and ourselves.
- Caffyn Jesse
I'm Laura, sex and intimacy educator, guide, facilitator and pleasure activist.
It's an honor to be your host in this sanctuary, your curios companion on this pleasure journey, possibly even a catalyst to your erotic awakening.
My intention is to help you start where you are. By crafting a container for your sensual self-inquiry, offering simple, direct, tangible ways to access the potency of your innate erotic intelligence.
My professional experiences in sexual health education, somatic healing arts and spiritual tending, as well as various other complementary fields have woven together to create a dynamic practice. However, the heartbeat of my work is simply love and authentic connection.
If and when you're ready to take the next step, begin by requesting an Exploration Call.
The goal of the practice is to find out whatever you find out.
- Betty Martin
why do i think better sex can change the world?
Because how we experience sex draws upon every aspect of our lives. Yet we live in intimacies, societies, and economies based on nonconsensual taking and over-giving. Our nervous system struggles to meet the demands of chronic activation and pleasure is often seen as impractical, excessive, or selfish. Our dominant culture certainly does not foster joyful and fulfilling sex.
Our sexual challenges are not our fault, but addressing it within ourselves is our responsibility. We can choose to create safe-enough space to be brave and truly consensual in our relationships. Better sex requires nothing less.
We can take time to know what we want, ask for what we want, and be listened to. To experience having our desires met, if they can be met by another with full heart. To learn to say No, and hear No, without breaking relationship.
Better sex can resource us for living in the more expansive, courageous, and deeply pleasurable parts of our nervous system capacities. These experiences offer us more fulfilling possibilities for relationship, joy and well-being.
We don’t have to join the journey to better sex because it will change the world. We can do so simply because it makes our own lives more wonderful.
Any real ecstasy is a sign you are moving in the right direction, don't let any prude tell you otherwise.
- Saint Teresa of Avila
how do you define sex?
In the words of my teacher Betty Martin...
I define sex in the broadest sense – a full range of affectionate and sensual play and erotic expression.
It’s way more than genital contact, and may not include genital contact at all.
You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees through the desert repenting. You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves.
- Mary Oliver
WHAT DOES SOMATIC MEAN?
It comes from an ancient Greek word meaning body or of the body. Soma is the living body in its wholeness. Somatic-based education views the body as a living dynamic intelligence that guides us if we pay attention.
Somatic based educators teach through body experiences designed to nurture, deepen or awaken the sensual self. These experiences can include coaching in breath, movement, body awareness, boundary-setting, communication, anatomy, sensate focus, contact, tantric teachings and other body-based teaching about sex.
The wound is the place where the light enters you.
COMMON REASONS SOMATIC SUPPORT IS SOUGHT
All humans experience questions and hurdles on the journey to erotic wellness. Often trauma can create added layers of challenge.
Somatic-based work is experiential. We create a strong container of safety, love and acceptance, so that you can let go, rest into it, and follow your natural process. Your body knows exactly what it needs.
Somatic healing work is commonly sought for a variety of reasons. Here are some:
Mapping your path to pleasure and erotic freedom
Embodying a sense of power and confidence in your sensual and sexual expression
Exploring different sexual styles
Healing trauma in the body (sexual and otherwise)
Moving beyond shame and negative sexual conditioning
Inability to orgasm
Pain during sex
Fear of communicating about sex and pleasure
Note: This work requires emotional integrity. Though we will be guiding your experience and maintaining safe boundaries, you must be responsible for your decisions at all times.
We cannot teach people anything; we can only help them discover it within themselves.
- Galileo Galilei
MY training &
Fertility Awareness & Holistic Sexual Health Educator
Intimacy Educator & Sacred Intimate
EroSpirit Intimacy Institute, Caffyn Jesse
Like A Pro: Wheel of Consent Training (June 2022)
Betty Martin & Roby Dalzen
Sensual Tantra Practitioner Training
St. Pete Retreat, Golden Goddess Tantra
Practitioner of Womb Wisdom Medicine
Sacred Woman School, Malieokalani Urrutia
Pelvic Health Professional Facilitator Training
Embodied Healing Arts, Sanya Hurem
Sacred Circle Facilitator Training & Medicine Woman Course
Mujer Ciclica, Sophia Style & Gemma Polo
Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough Training
Somatic Tools, Breath & The Nervous System Course
Kimberly Ann Johnson
Adult Sexuality Educator
Our Whole Lives Facilitator Training, UUA
If we know how to take good care of suffering, we will know how to take good care of happiness.
- Thich Nhat Hanh
who do you work with?
Beautiful, brave souls.
Open to all genders, races, body types, relationship styles, and ages (over 21).
Whether you want to heal feelings of sexual shame, explore the intersection of sex and spirit, better express your desires or deepen erotic pleasure...
I welcome you on this journey.
Also, I'm happy to share that my Cuban roots allow me to create offerings in Spanish.